Yes, we are a looks-obsessed culture. One of our greatest virtues as humans is our desire to constantly improve. But in the same way that women can have it all, the notion that instantly stick-thin figures after birth are normal is untrue. Sometimes, in my sleep-deprived nights, I ponder our ideal of this near-emaciated, sexy and well-dressed Frankenmom we’ve created and wonder how to undo her. Even just a little bit.

Janice Min, who has admittedly made a living from editing and publishing such Frankenmom Hollywood stories, comes clean about the obsession with thinness post-pregnancy.

My partner and I want to have kids in the next three to five years. I began my academic pursuits in high school. I’m now an almost thirty-year-old academic; I have an academic woman’s body. I don’t ‘rock’ Pilates-fresh abs, although I do do Pilates. …I’d like to be happy with my body before we begin this child-birthing adventure. Seeing as how I’ve had this academic body for about 13 years and have been ‘working out’ for the last 4 years, its likely that by the time I get there, the baby body will come.

Just sitting at the table over tea, I told my partner how yeah, my best mate growing up was bulimic; and how, yeah, I was teased by boys in high school for being ‘fat’. But I didn’t have THAT MUCH bad-body-image-reinforcement direct from the source, which leads me to believe the majority of my body-image issues are socially reinforced. And then I think about this Akin idiot, about the US Congress trying to (still) control women’s bodies, and female genital mutilation, amongst the mass media airbrushing… I really wonder, if there is any hope for our gender.  Will there EVER be a day when we don’t beat ourselves up for the way we look? Will there EVER be a day when a man’s hair loss is the front page of US Weekly instead of Jessica Simpson’s ‘baby-fat body’? Will the objectification stop?!

Is asking to be accepted too much? Why are our bodies such a source of conflict for us and for people who view our bodies as expressions of something more significant about our personhood?

…le sigh.

the article is a good read anyhow.